On the road to recovery

Yes...We had a big scare last week (see previous entry)...Alhamdulillah...it is all over now.....

We thank everybody for their prayers,sms and calls.. wishing her a speedy recovery...(will answer the comments in the previous entry later)

Hatice listening to her new ipod while waiting for our appointment with the doctor...

Alhamdulillah... Yes...she is recovering very well...Well...u know kids right? how their tissues mend very fast? ..totally unlike us.... adults...(Did i mention the word *old?!!) hahahahaah

Hatice and i went to the hospital again ...exactly one week after the operation...for a medical check up... to see 2 doctors...one for the allergic reaction she had due to certain chemical substance (that orangish darkish liquid)..sorry...cant remember the doctor's name... and to see the doctor who was in charge of her from the moment surgery was on till she left the hospital... Dr. Fatma Nur Hacıbaloğlu..a very sweet,polite and comforting lady doctor indeed...

Dr. Fatma Nur Hacıbaloğlu (white), hatice and her assistant (blue)..

Depending on her mobility n pain... hatice can go to school either next week or the week after next... we will see...

How is she exactly? Well... she can walk..that's for sure... we were walking from one doctor to another...First..we went to see Dr. Fatma Nur..then she demanded a blood count...so we went to give her blood for testing to the lab...Then...it was the skin specialist doc interview... by then... the result of the blood count was not out yet.....and so... mother and daughter went to the cafe of the hospital for a break... drinking the cold ice tea...

what a strong memory she has got indeed...... she saw the surgeon who operated on her... hugged him.. told him her thanks... and again..he was pinching her cheeks (just like he did before the operation)... çookk tatlı bir kız (a very sweet girl) he said of my daughter....Then... when the blood test result was out..again we went to Dr.Fatma Nur..this sweet lady noticed something wrong with her hemoglobin count... and so.. we were referred to another doc....where we finally discovered that there was a bit of error in the test reading... Grrrrrrr.....(they gave me a scare!!).... Anyway... hatice n i were moving from one level to another...but it didnt feel like a burden much coz the customer service there was good.....and hatice was walking quite well...that is as long as nobody touches her tummy part...

Since Sema is located just a few minutes away from her school.. and since she misses her friends..i offered to bring her there for a few minutes...

Her friends just got out of the physical education class..... when a few of her friends saw her.. they rushed towards her and hugged her...begging me to let her stay a bit longer... stuck in deciding between staying next to hatice and going to eat lunch... and so i agreed to let her stay a few minutes more...together with her friends at the school canteen...

You should have seen their faces.... her classmates especially... all were very happy to see her (even the boys)... Elif practically almost jumped towards hatice.... quickly saving a spot next to her for hatice to sit... Kaan was also trying to defend the spot elif reserved for hatice...happy to see her... (hatice is kaan's playmate..she plays action man toys with him in school hehee)...All of her friends were happy...all asking when she was coming back to school....Even baddin (her brother) who rarely bother about his sister in school was heard saying loudly... *o benim ablam!! burada!* (that's my sister... here!!)..He too must have missed having his sister in school... Bilginur.. the girl who is in the same school service was happy to see her... even keremcan came to us when she saw his cousin at the canteen...

Oh dear! i can see how pampered she will be especially for the first few days of her schooling days later... i am sure she will make totally good use of that opportunity... hehehe Enjoy these days lil princess for you dont get to enjoy it often...

Have a Speedy recovery dear çiçeğim!!

Her Health ; Challenged

There is nothing worse for a mom to see your child squirming. tossing and turning in intense pain for days….unable to sit or lie down…tired from exhaustion coz any food or drinks that entered the body would be out again in a second ...in a pool of vomit…wanting to sleep but couldnt…literally screaming out her pain…yet..no medicine….nor emadur nor painkillers seem to any take effect…only to discover the truth…

and to see your child being wheeled off into an emergency operating theatre…at the same hospital where the grandpa was…thinking that… *will this hospital entry end up in another death??*...Indeed...In Allah we trust…in Allah we seek the comfort we need……


It was heartbreaking to see her in pain for days… it all started after our visitor from malaysia left our place.She had complained of an intense tummy pain… we thought that it was something normal.. she was after all was having fever that day….But the pain suddenly intensified…leaving us all to speculate….her doctor aunty… meşe hala was called….the pain did not decrease despite the medication….

Come Monday morning… we brought her to Dr. Buge… the child doc specalist whom we always go to (next to meşe hala) whenever the need arises for both of our kids…Dr. Buge requested the urine n blood tests..in which we complied…. Her pain didnt decrase at all since then.. and the test results that evening suggested sand in her kidney….we were to go for an ultrasound on Wednesday and to see a doctor who specialised in urology…

But she got worse and worse…it came to a point that Tuesday where she could no longer walk and i had to carry her everywhere… her pain getting no better at all. But her baba… my beloved was at work that day…full day at the unversity for his lectures…

Sweet aunty Meşe hala suggested ultrasound….her uncle Kerim brought us to Sema hastanesi (hospital)…it was from the ultrasound that the doctor suggested that we went and see the doctor who specialises in woman’s sickness coz the ulrasound revealed an oddity in size of one of her ovaries….…….it was then an emergency operation was decided… and she was wheeled into the operating theatre…..scared…. and i as her mom watched her in numb.... snapping photos of her to get myself occupied...though thoroughly shaking....literally..

Luckily kerim was there… he informed the rest of the Zaim famiy members while i smsed my family in Malaysia…and a few friends asking for their prayers for her safe surgery….

Alhamdulillah…the operation went well… they had to remove one of her ovaries…it was on time indeed coz…..that ovary was already very big…black and dead…it was starting to affect the things surrounding the area… If we had waited perhaps another day or even another hour….that ovary might burst and my daughter could die! Allah has shown some mercy on her and us..and have let her continue with her mortal life…with one other ovary safely intact in her body…functional…insyaAllah…she will still be able to have kids of her own……

To me and halil..and baddin… we are thankful most for the fact that she is alive… for the fact that she has been spared the intense pain she had been having pre operation… True, the operation had/will set her back from school for probably 3 weeks… but it is her health that matters..and to be able to see that sweet face smiling again….and be back home…..scolding her brother and playing with him...i for one am very grateful for this gift of life...


It is also in this time..it feels wonderful to know that we are not alone... that we can count on someone...... our living is backed by doas, love, and support from many people from many locations be it family, friends, acquaintance and even those with faces i cant remember their names...

To Meşe..for being the hala as well as the doctor with great intuition that have used her instinct which may have saved my daughter's life....

To the rest of the zaim family....Kerim n family.....Funda n family...Özlem n family....Meşe n family...not excluding...the aunties...Afife teyze n family...lutfiye teyze n family..Mahture yenge... Muyessa yenge...as well as the rest of the cousins and relatives....

Our gratefulness is also extended to the doctors n staffs of Sema hastane of whom i remember not their names for taking good care of my daughter while she was in the hospital...

My family in Malaysia for their doas ...and my bro joe for his call immediately after recieving my sms..

My blogger friends for their sms n call (kak elle) which kept me sort of sane in a way esp at nite in the hospital...

All the calls of geçmiş olsun from the family members...including the one girl cousin.... friends of the family... teachers (Nuray Çatman.Arzu Özkan, Hacer...)...hatice's friends (Elif,Elanur, Zuleyha,Ayşenur, Furkan)... all the sms n calls from Bursa...America...Malaysia...Singapore...and definitely..istanbul... the moms n grandma of hatice's classmates... the school service hostess (sultan irikaya)

And the hospital visits and help by the Zaim family members as well as from Elif's mom (hatice's classmate's mom)....

It had made her the happiest girl of all of course especially when her girl classmates made a suprise visit with her class teacher where she was showered with cards..... Thank You sweet Elanur,Elif, Şevval,Hesna, Nergizhan, Merve, Zuleyha and Ayşenur for coming...She was a little bit dissappointed of course when .. she discovered that the boys classmates were supposed to visit her the next day (she learned this from furkan)... and they couldnt since she was discharged by 11am! hhehehe ..she misses her classmates a lot...

Forgive me if i forget to mention your names... but all those people who were there for us from day one she got sick... your kindness w shall never forget....Please make your rights halal over us..

Now she is Alhamdulillah recovering at home... she is able to walk on her own slowly. She still feels pain and we give her painkillers for now. This is the best part of all where she is showered by gifts from everyone.... from books and colouring materials...to pyjamas and toys... to cards and pictures...and flowers and plants....and even an ipod....!! But the best gift of all is the fact that she is well loved indeed as her recovery is filled with doas from all corners of the world...She awaits her cousins' visits eagerly...for next to her recovery... next to the homework she gets from her teacher (she is sad to miss her lessons)... they are the best emotional support (along the calls she get from her classmates) she can get...

May u recover soon my princess... for the sun in my heart shines everytime i see you smile for you and your brother are my life...,

Before the operation.. in pain...she told me that she gave up wanting to be a doctor... post operation..when i asked her...

*Are you sure you don't wanna be a doctor anymore?*

She answered:

*I think i changed my mind. I wanna be a doctor once i grow up. They make me better.*

Here are the pics snapped to telll the whole ordeal... mind u.. the one with blurry pictures may be due to the holder of the camera shaking in tears..

while waiting for the ultrasound...

hatice totally in pain

getting ready for the operation...
a scared face heading towards the operating theatre...(she was angry at me coz i told her i would show the pics to her cousin Zam in Malaysia)
into the operating room..
post operation...

inside the container... her ovary..all black and abnormally big in size for an 8 year old girl..

Recuperating... still in great pain...wanting to cough..n yet scared coz it had hurt so much...

Post operation..

A father caressing his daughter's hair with all the love there is in him..

a card from Elif..the cousin..

a card from Zeynep...the cousin..

happy to be surrounded by the girls classmates...

she misses them sooo much..

Reading the cards given to her by her classmates namely;

Elanur,Hesna,Elif, Merve, Şevval, Nergizhan, Zuleyha,Ayşenur (in no particular order as some have no names)

Meşe hala helping hatice to go to bed after a stroll with her baba

Her happy face after a stroll with her baba along the corridor on the wheelchair

going home..while waiting for her baba's car..
Still looking sick but so much better..

Ceza...

On the first day post bayram holiday, she came home from school... took off her shoes and said...

*Anne... i got punished by my english teacher*...

It turned put that she accidently left her file containing her english homework inside the bus service..thus, the punishment... she had to write lines as a result...

Well.. my dear kızım... next time take responsibilities of your own things!! I doubt that she wont forget her things in the school service again (DNA inheritence from her anne n baba hehehehe) but..well... :0)

How is she in school? well.. she is as always a very responsible student in her class... i suppose active too in answering the questions... But of ourse.. naturally that doesnt imply that in exams, she is among the best students... they have a test once in two weeks... well... for the first test.. she got 24 wrongs... the next test saw an improvement on her side where she got 15 wrongs... She was so sad naturally especially when her competitor...elanur only got 5 wrongs.... she cried even ...

My response was this...i asked her...
1. did you read the questions carefully? she said yes.
2. did you try your very best to answer all the questions right? again..another yes.

I told her that if she did what she could.. and 15 wrongs were what she could get... i would be happy for her...

For now.. occasionally.. her dad is still around to help out with her math and turkish homework... next week... he will be late from work (past the kids' bed time) for at least 3 nights a week since the lectures will start..i suppose after this.. i will have to start calling either her dad on the phone or her aunties or cousins to ask for the answers ... it is a good thing too that we have a lot of numbers to call... zaimlar... yakında..biz size biraz rahatsız edeceğiz :0)

When asked about her school life...
1. Do u like school? Answer: No
2. Do you like homework? Answer; I hate it
3. Do you like your teachers? Answer; I love them!!

So i suppose...learning does depend a lot on the teachers... if the teachers make the kids love them.. they will make learning more bearable and perhaps enjoyable for kids like hatice who dislikes shool and most importantly homework... hatice knows that school is essential for her to achieve her dreams... she wants to be either a doctor or a teacher...so for now she will endure school whether she likes it or now...

What do i see in her? I think she will be excellent as a language teacher... i think she will excell in human resource department where she will interact with people.. I think her language and her social skills are excellent... though i do forsee her having difficulties in math and pure sciences... she is sooooooooo like me... but we are not giving up on her...her baba and i even talked of hiring a special tutor for these subjects whenever the needs arise...After all.. what we want is for our kids to excell as best as they can... they may not be totally excellent but we want them to give all their might in whatever things they endevour...

Annen ve baban seni çok çok seviyoruz.. sakın unutma... !