Thursday, November 13, 2008

Sadness

She came home sad today.... you see a few of her friends in her class (5 i think) were awarded for their excellence in their tests.. i am assuming they are the top 5 students in the class coz their names are the ones who normally score the highest marks..and she was not one of them....

I can understand her feelings. She really wanted to be among those rewarded. But the thing is... she had done her best in all the tests. I know she is not the brightest in her class but she has other strong points as well that others dont... i think she is among the top in her class in english class and characterwise... she is mature for her age. Those are her strongest poıints. She should concentrate on them while trying to improve her other weaker strenghts. She should realize that having a high IQ is not everything. What is important is to work hard towards success coz success is so much more sweeter when u achieve it thru hard work.

She is so much like me... a person with an average IQ. But i worked damn well hard to earn what i got. I remember when i first entered the TESL (Teaching of English as a Second Language) course at the university. I was among the average type of students. There were totally brilliant people with bombastic usage of the language. At the end of the program, i was among those who succeeded well..... there were a few of those brilliant ones who didnt even graduate!! So was it due to intelligence or was it due to hard work? You can be intelligent and lazy but not successful. or you can be average but hardworking and successful. I wish i can make her understand this fact. To look into her strengths and move on forward from there. To not be sad... for she is only in the second grade... she is a hardworking girl..insyaAllah she will succeed..

I love you çiçeğim.. my prayers will always be with you and your brother for your success in life in all directions...

2 Comments:

At 6:24 PM, Blogger sue said...

Simah,
please tell her not to worry to much, it is still a long journey..

nak share satu cerita, last two years our officemate's son were too stressed masa nak ambik UPSR, coz of high expectation from his parents..dlm family semuanya doing well-Medic etc..so this poor kid pun tension sampai koma putus urat, operate buang tempurung kepala coz nak suck out darah beku..

I bukan nak takutkan u, ni pun utk renungan i jugak supaya terima setiap anak seadanya...tapi of coz as a mother kita nak kita berjaya dlm hidup..:-)

she'll do well la Simah..kalau bukan skrg..later2 Insyallah.
I pun dah bgatu my husband jangan exam oriented sgt kat anak2 nanti :-)

 
At 7:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

thanks 4 the reminder sue....

actuslly.. halil n i r relaxed parents... we accept our kids as they r but the education system is far too *success* oriented that whether u like it or not the kids r totally overworked...i think this is happening in malaysia as well...only here it is totally worse...


ala i senang ja..i ckp kat hatice.. *kalau tak belajar pandai pandai pi kawin!* hahahaha

 

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