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There is a meeting day for all mothers of the kids in hatice's class twice a month.. every tuesday. I was dreading the day when someone would call and say that there would be a meeting. Last weekend, someone did... i even *chopped* halil's head for his teasing on that matter.. i had missed these meetings for 3 times.. ok..ok..i thought.. let me go once.. let us see what happens...

Yup.. it was freezing.. it was snowing on n off..i scooped my son's hand into mine and we headed off towards the school....it took us almost an hour to reach there..the mini bus was overcrowded... the traffic..but we reached there in the end. It was to begin at 1 pm.

Frankly speaking, i didnt know what to expect. Anyway.. met another *mom* there.. and together we went to the meeting place.. It was actually a small building wth cozy sofa n carpet in it. The heater was not working..and guess what? i wore thin!! stupid stupid me.. The rest of the moms wore nice clothing as well.. contrastively.. i wore my customary jeans n t-shirt.. i find wearing jeans is much more comfortable than wearing proper clothing...with all the walking n mini bus experience....jeans is what i will wear everytime i go to hatice's school... appropriate or not.. that is the least of my concern.

Nobody brought any child. baddin was the only one.. i was afraid he would not be able to stand the meeting... luckily he was quite ok with it.. i gave him my handphone to play with hehehehehe.. though i couldnt help but sense that someone was not that happy that a child was around...the rest of the moms were cool about it though...

The meeting... a total of 8 moms were there.. hatice's class teacher ..nilgün gülen was there as well..

My conclusion?

The meeting was nice.. Nilgün hanım introduced topics to talk about..but it was a chance for the moms to exchange thoughts n ideas of their childrens' development both in school and out of school.

The disadvantage is..
the meeting was too long. It was supposed to start at 1pm.. i left by 3 pm n the meeting was still ongoing. The fact that it was long made it impossible for me to attend it often coz to go there with baddin every forthnight would be impossible..and i do not have anyone to leave him to...and i dont want to....occasionally, i will go..but not often..

I also noticed that there r only one or two dominators in the discussions.. at times, the dominators left no room for other mothers to join in the conversation. Other mothers were not coaxed to join in more...some may not be talkative..but if coaxed..if encouraged.. others will have something to say as well.I was not the active participator. I was more than happy to observe the ongoings of the conversation...to have my own evaluation..maybe next time...

I also conclude that Nilgün hanım is a very very sweet lady... i am so happy to have her as hatice's class teacher.. she is someone to talk to..

What i feel.. the topic on sending ur kids to school earlier than their age.. i agree withg the saying that it will be difficult for that child to reach to the standard of those around him or her.. as nilgün hanım had experienced it herself..

when i look at baddin and hatice.. both r developing at their own pace.. yes..there r ways to speed the process..but i feel that when they r ready..they will be ready... i used to worry a lot about hatice. I thought she was a bit slow in the mental development.. esp when it comes to numbers ...she has talemts in some fields..but in other fields..she worried me.. now..i see that she just need s some time to develop herself..to be ready..mentally.. now i think she is ready..

Baddin is the same... he is preparing himself too.. though he has a sharp mind.. in some areas he is not so speedy.. n i sense that he too will be prepared when he has reached that level of readiness..

my conclusion is.. unless ur child is super genius...high IQ...a mensa.. let ur child develop at his or her own pace.... let her or him enjoy her/his childhood!!